The Courage to Be Disliked by Fumitake Koga and Ichiro Kishimiby Andi on TwosIf you change your lifestyle - the way of giving meaning to the world and yourself - then both your way of interacting with the world and your behavior will change as well. Do not forget this point: one will have to changeEveryone is in this 'condition of wanting to improve' that is the pursuit of superiority. One holds up various ideals or goals, and heads towards them. However, on not being able to reach one's ideals, one harbours a sense of being lesser.The pursuit of superiority and the feeling of inferiority are not diseases, but stimulants to normal, healthy striving and growthIt's simply that it's scary to take even one step forward; also, that you don't want to make realistic efforts. You don't want to change so much that you'd be willing to sacrifice the pleasures you enjoy now. In other words, you're not equipped with the ~courage~ to change your lifestyle. It's easier with things just as they are now, even if you have some complaintsWishing so hard to be recognized will lead to a life of following expectations held by other people who want you to be ‘this kind of person’. In other words, you throw away who you really are and live other people’s livesThe courage to be normal - it is not being inferior. You don't need to be specially good or specially bad to have self-worth.Being normal != Being incapable != being mediocrePeople who think of life as being like climbing a mountain or treating their own existences as lines as if there is a line that started to instant one came into this world and that continues in all manner of curves of very sizes until it arrives at the summit, and then at long last reaches its terminus, which is death. This conception, which treats life as a kind of story, is an idea that links with Freudian aetiology, and is a way of thinking that makes the greater part of life into something that is 'en route'Adlerian psychology says: Do not treat life as a line. Think of it as a series of dots. If you look through a magnifying glass at a solid line drawn with chalk, you will discover that what you thought was a line is actually a series of small dots; in other words, life is a series of moments of moments called 'now'. We can live only in the here and now. Our lives exist only in momentsThe greatest life-lie is to not live here and now. It is to look at the past and the future, cast a dim light on one's entire life, and believe that one has been able to see something. Until now, you have turned away from the here and now, and only shone a light on invented pasts and futures. You have told a great lie to your life, to these irreplaceable moments