How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegieby Parker on TwosChange "but" to "and."Compliment good work and give a reason for it.Lead by example.Talk about your own mistakes first.Give suggestions, not orders.“You might consider this,” or “Do you think that would work?”Asking questions not only makes an order more palatable; it often stimulates the creativity of the persons whom you ask. People are more likely to accept an order if they have had a part in the decision that caused the order to be issued.