Every time I think "I don't have it figured out," I can now immediately replace it with "no one has it figured out. Everyone around me, regardless of age, is suffering alongside with me." There's way more empathy and mutual understanding in the second one, which is really what adulting is about.by Cfitter on TwosEvery time I think "I don't have it figured out," I can now immediately replace it with "no one has it figured out. Everyone around me, regardless of age, is suffering alongside with me." There's way more empathy and mutual understanding in the second one, which is really what adulting is about.