Ryan Holidayby Parker on TwosOnly focus your energy on the things that are inside your controlwe don't control what happens to us, we control how we respondStoicism isn't about the abstance of emotion, it's about the domestication of themTelling someone how angry they are making you often makes it worsethomas Jefferson used to write long letters to people he was mad at telling them exactly how he felt and then he would stick them in a drawer and never send themPractice poverty once a month to remind yourself that it isn't that badRemember to be gratefulLive below your meansWe all have certain talents or strengths and we owe it to ourselves to get as good as we can at those thingsAmbition is tying your well being to what happens to you, self indulgence is tying it to what other people say, sanity is tying it to your own actionsyour potential, the absolute best you are capable of, that is the metric to measure yourself against. Your standards are. Winning is not enough. People can get lucky and win, people can be assholes and win, anyone can win, but not everyone can be the best possible version of themselveslove fate. Embrace everything that happens to youQuiet your ego by getting a mentor or by spending time in natureHow much of this decision is motivated by not wanting to disappoint people and what would I say about this at 80 years old