Chapter 15: Forgive or Fester
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- The moment you decide to forgive and let your negative feelings melt away, you are on the road to freedom.
- ⭐️ Forgiveness is all about taking care of you, not the person you need to forgive.
- It's about taking responsibility for your own happiness instead of pretending it's in somebody else's hand.
- Holding on to resentment is like taking poison and waiting for your enemies to die.
- The longer you stay attached to being vindicated, the longer they hang around in your consciousness, stinking up your life.
- ⭐️ Do not fall prey to the false belief that by forgiving someone you're letting them off the hook. Because when you forgive someone you let yourself off the hook.
- ⭐️ Forgiving someone isn't about being nice to them, it's about being nice to yourself.
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- How to forgive
- Find compassion
- Erase the other person from the equation
- Decide you'd rather be happy than right
- Look at it from all angles
- "We don't attach to people or things, we attach to un-investigated concepts that we believe to be true in the moment." -Byron Katie
- Have a total shitfit
- Scream outside, scream in your pillow. Get it out of your system, totally and completely, and then let it go
- Remember that you won't even remember this
- Fuggetaboutit
- Once you've truly forgiven someone, wipe the slate clean.
- Release all expectations, let everyone off the hook, treat people as a blank slate over and over again, expect only the best from them regardless of what they've done in the past and you may be surprised.
- Love yourself.
- You deserve it.