Chapter 19: The Drama of Overwhelm
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- "I have lived a long life and had many troubles, most of which never happened." -Mark Twain
- ‼️ The majority of the pain and suffering in our lives is caused by the unnecessary drama that we create.
- ⭐️ Life is but a dream. Don't turn it into a nightmare.
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- The most common complaints about overwhelm:
- There's not enough time
- When we're forced to do something, suddenly the time is there. Which means it's there all the time, but we've just chosen to limit ourselves by believing it isn't.
- Show some respect
- You can create anything you desire, but you have to truly want it.
- If you act like time isn't important, that it's fully worth wasting and disrespecting, you're not in alignment with what you say you want so you're gonna have a hard time getting it.
- Keep your friends close and your enemies closer
- What do you find yourself doing instead of doing what you're supposed to be doing? Once you know what your favorite distractions are, you can build up a good defense against it.
- We get into such bad habits that half the time we don't even realize what we're doing.
- Chunk it down
- Look at tasks separately so that larger tasks become manageable
- Our brains go into overwhelm when we try to do it all in one big block of time
- There's too much to do
- Watch your mouth: stop talking about how busy you are
- ⭐️ Focus on what you enjoy about what you do and the spaces in between the doing instead of feeling weighed down by it all.
- Get some help
- A lot of times we are so tangled up in our own lives that we can't see something that's totally obvious to someone else.
- Get into reality
- Sometimes we take on more than we can chew because we think we have to do it all. Or that the world will fall apart if we don't do everything.
- Make a to-do list to chunk our the tasks:
- What needs to happen right now?
- What can wait?
- Put these on 2 separate lists. Hide the Wait list.
- what are the big important tasks on the Now list?
- what are the little ones?
- ⭐️ Do what you can do in joy, instead of trying to do it all in misery.
- Delegate or die
- Figure out which tasks you hate doing or have always been bad at or just don't have time to do and find someone else to do them.
- Help is all around us, sometimes receiving it is simply a matter of looking at it differently, or not giving up so easily.
- Remember that you are # 1.
- Put your priorities first. Other people's needs can occupy several lifetimes' worth of our attention, and if you let them, they will.
- I am exhausted
- ⭐️ The belief that taking time off will cause your entire life to collapse is not only unhealthy, but it's arrogant.
- Making time to do the things that inspire you should also be a priority because what's the point of living life without them?
- Love Yourself. You're doing an awesome job.