You must love yourself before you can love others. If you don’t love yourself, you are in a state of need. You need something before your can love yourself. So it is not others that you love, but what they can do for you to help you feel whole and loved. But if you love yourself first, you can love others unselfishly and really listen and be there for them. If you don’t treat yourself well, you won’t love yourself. Would you love someone who didn’t treat you well?. You can love someone who doesn’t treat you well, but you must love and treat yourself well first, so you aren’t needing something from them instead. You’re accepting, understanding, loving. So you must treat yourself, your self, your mind, body, and soul well. You’ll love it, and you’ll love you