Dale Carnegie. Leadership usually gravitates to the man who can get up and say what he thinks. Our trouble is not ignorance, but inaction. Our main business is not to see what lies dimly at a distance, but to do what lies clearly at hand. The best possible way to prepare for tomorrow is to concentrate with all your intelligence, all your enthusiasm, on doing today’s work superbly today. Good thinking deals with causes and effects and leads to logical, constructive planning; bad thinking frequently leads to tension and nervous breakdowns. Every day is a new life to a wise man. All of us tend to put off living. The remedy for worry is to get completely occupied doing something constructive. Let’s not allow ourselves to be upset by small things we should despise and forget. “Acceptance of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequence of any misfortune.” - William James. Carry on, no matter what happens. Hide your private sorrows under a smile and carry on. We must accept and cooperate with the inevitable. It is so. It cannot be otherwise. If I lost all five of my senses, I know I could live on inside my mind. For it is in the mind we see, and in the mind we live, whether we know it or not. “A man doesn’t have the time to spend half his life in quarrels. If any many ceases to attack me, I never remember the past against him.” - Abraham Lincoln. Don’t cry over spilt milk. “A man is what he thinks about all day long.” - Ralph Waldo Emerson. Concern means realizing what the problems are and calmly taking steps to meet them. Worrying means going around in maddening, futile circles. Nothing can bring you peace but yourself. “A man is not hurt so much by what happens, as by his opinion of what happens.” - Montaigne. If selfish people try to take advantage of you, cross them off your list, but don’t try to get even. When you try to get even, you hurt yourself more than you hurt the other fellow. “To be wronged or robbed is nothing unless you continue to remember it.” - Confucius. No man can humiliate or disturb you unless you let him. “In the long run, every man will pay the penalty for his own misdeeds. The man who remembers this will be angry with no one, indignant with no one, revile no one, blame no one, offend no one, hate no one.” - Epictetus. “No man is to be eulogized for what he does; or censured for what he did or did not do, all of us are the children of conditions, of circumstances, of environment, of education, of acquired habits and of heredity mounding men as they are and will for ever be.” - Abraham Lincoln. “To know all is to understand all, and this leaves no room for judgement and condemnation.” - Clarence Darrow. Let’s not expect gratitude. Then, if we get some occasionally, it will come as a delightful surprise. If we don’t get it, we won’t be disturbed. “The ideal man takes joy in doing favors for others; but he feels ashamed to have others do favors for him. For it is a mark of superiority to confer a kindness; but it is a mark of inferiority yo receive it.” - Aristotle. Be yourself. What lesson can I learn from this misfortune? How can I improve my situation? How can I turn this lemon into a lemonade?. The best things are the most difficult. Try to think every day how you can please someone. A good deed is one that brings a smile of joy to the face of another. Doing good to others is not a duty. It is a joy, for it increases your own health and happiness. “When you are good to others, you are best to yourself.” - Benjamin Franklin. Never be bothered by what people say, as long as you know in your heart you are right. Act as if you were interested in your job, and that bit of acting will tend to make your interest real. It will also decrease your fatigue, your tensions, and your worries. Don’t feel compelled to enter a business or trade just because your family wants you to do it. Don’t enter a career unless you want to do it. Consider carefully the advice of your parents. They have probably lives twice as long as you have. But, in the last analysis, you are the one who has to make the final decision. Try to get the viewpoint of ten thousand years and see how trivial your troubles are, in terms of eternity. Find out precisely what is the problem you are worrying about. Find out the cause of the problem. Do something constructive at once about solving the problem. I can not escape my worries by trying to run away from them, but I can banish them by changing my mental attitude toward them. My worries are not outside but inside myself. Never fret over a problem until it is at least a week old. “I owe whatever success I have had to the powder of settling down to the days work and trying to do it well to the best of my ability and letting the future take care of itself.” - Sir William Osier. Avoid worry. Never worry about anything, under any kind of circumstances. Relax, and take plenty of mild exercise in the open air. Watch your diet. Always stop eating while you’re still a little hungry. If a situation seems insurmountable, face it. Start fighting. Don’t give in